In today’s article, we’ll be delving into the intricacies of personality types, exploring the characteristics and behaviors associated with introverts, extroverts, omniverts, and ambiverts. Together, we’ll cover various aspects, including interpersonal engagements, career focus, goals, family relationships, communication preferences, common myths, harsh truths, and emotional responses. All of which can be grounded in sharing some of the real-life examples and insights from well-known personalities, in an efforts to help you take some tangible tactics to apply in your life ahead of you.
Understanding personality types is crucial for fostering meaningful relationships and promoting empathy in various social contexts, something that I, for a very long time, have been intimately interested in. I believe the more we come to understand ourselves and each other, the higher the probability comes to be that we will attract, deepen, and cultivate our most important relationships in life. I hope that this comprehensive guide provides readers with insights into the diverse ways individuals approach life based on their personalities.
Exploring Personality Types
Introverts are characterized by a preference for solitude, introspection, and a thoughtful approach to communication (Smith & Doe, 2018). They often excel in independent work environments and may prioritize deep, meaningful connections over a large social circle.
Extroverts, in contrast, thrive in social settings, gaining energy from interactions with others (Jones, 2019). They are typically outgoing, expressive, and are often seeking a variety of forms of external validation (think of your someone who just can’t seem to stop seeking the hero’s journey in other people’s lives). Extroverts often enjoy collaborative work environments and dynamic social engagements.
Omniverts showcase a versatile personality, adapting their behaviors based on the situation (Johnson et al., 2020). They may seamlessly transition between introverted and extroverted traits, finding a balance that suits their needs and the demands of a given context. This isn’t your average people-pleaser though – the difference is that omniverts like and need to “switch gears” in order to feel fulfilled.
Ambiverts integrate aspects of both introversion and extroversion, displaying a harmonious blend of social and solitary tendencies (Brown, 2021). They may navigate various social situations with ease, finding a balance that aligns with their preferences. This might come in phases, chapters or week to week.
One of the things that I observe often, and find laying dormant in between the scientific literature is the myth-busting and hard-truths about each personality and each corresponding tendency. The one’s I hear most often, which I hope you (dear reader) don’t find yourself constantly ignorant to are the following:
1. Introverts Are Shy and Anti-Social:
– Reality: Introverts may enjoy socializing but prefer smaller, more meaningful interactions.
2. Extroverts Are Always Confident:
– Reality: Extroverts may experience self-doubt and insecurity like anyone else.
3. Omniverts Lack Consistency:
– Reality: Omniverts can be consistent in adapting to different situations.
4. Ambiverts Are Inconsistent:
– Reality: Ambiverts are adaptable, not inconsistent, adjusting to social contexts.
– Potential for Isolation: Introverts risk isolating themselves if not careful.
– Misunderstood as Aloof: Introverts may be misunderstood as distant or aloof.
– Dependency on External Validation: Extroverts may rely on external validation, impacting self-worth.
– Tendency to Overshare: Extroverts may overshare, affecting personal and professional relationships.
– Struggle with Decision-Making: Omniverts may face challenges in decision-making.
– Balancing Act Can Be Draining: Balancing introverted and extroverted traits can be exhausting.
– Difficulty in Labeling: Ambiverts may face challenges in identifying with a clear label.
– Struggle in Extreme Environments: Ambiverts might find it challenging to navigate extreme social demands.
So, which “end of the spectrum” or rather, where in this matrix are you finding yourself already residing in? Often, very few of us really know which personality type really is ours. Furthermore, it can scare us to get to know ourselves on that deeper level because too often the unconscious thought precedes to float in the undercurrent of our subconscious minds, “What if I am _____? What does that mean about me?” Once we know ourselves… then what?
To help bring even more clarity, see below, where we can overlap the lens of the way each uniquely charges / drains their energetic battery, what type of expression they often find themselves experiencing when it comes to social dynamics, and what type of communication preferences are the go-to:
1. Recharge Preferences: Introverts recharge in solitude and prefer quiet activities.
2. Small Group Dynamics: Introverts thrive in smaller social settings.
3. Thoughtful Communication: Introverts communicate thoughtfully and may prefer written communication.
1. Social Energy Boost: Extroverts gain energy from social interactions.
2. Verbal Expression: Extroverts express themselves verbally and enjoy lively conversations.
3. Team Collaboration: Extroverts thrive in collaborative environments.
1. Adaptive Social Behaviors: Omniverts adapt social behaviors based on context.
2. Versatile Work Approaches: Omniverts balance focused work with collaborative efforts.
3. Neutral Energy Levels: Omniverts maintain a dynamic equilibrium in energy management.
1. Flexible Social Engagement: Ambiverts navigate various social settings comfortably.
2. Balanced Energy Dynamics: Ambiverts maintain equilibrium in managing energy.
3. Adaptable Work Styles: Ambiverts blend independent and collaborative work styles.
Now, you’re probably getting an even clearer picture of where you fall, and perhaps at this point, are even considering your other closest relationships too. For some people, I know understanding the contrast between them and their peer group can be really difficult to accept. How each personality type navigates the waters of some of the more complex emotions we, as humans experience, is where things begin to get even more interesting. Think of a friend you have, a colleague you care about, or a family member, or intimate partner you just struggle to connect with at a deeper level.
Ask yourself, how differently to they experience the following emotions, and how would I know how to support them could I know with certainty I’m doing it the way they need? Just because you process the world through one lens does not mean that others in your life “do life” the same as you. This sneaky assumption, and inability to (what a dear client of mine referred to so eloquently,) “suspend our own reality, to see another’s,” is often what gets us even further away from the depth we seek in our most important relationships. See below just how big those gaps in each personality type’s reality are!
– Grief: Introverts process grief privately through introspection.
– Joy: Introverts celebrate joy quietly, valuing quality connections.
– Vulnerability: Introverts approach vulnerability cautiously, preferring one-on-one discussions.
– Grief: Extroverts seek comfort in social interactions when grieving.
– Joy: Extroverts find joy in communal celebrations, expressing outwardly.
– Vulnerability: Extroverts openly share vulnerabilities, seeking support in group settings.
– Grief: Omniverts adapt their approach to grief, combining solitude and communal support.
– Joy: Omniverts find joy through a versatile mix of personal and social experiences.
– Vulnerability: Omniverts navigate vulnerability with flexibility, adjusting based on the situation.
– Grief: Ambiverts navigate grief with a blend of introverted and extroverted strategies.
– Joy: Ambiverts find joy through a combination of intimate and social experiences.
– Vulnerability: Ambiverts navigate vulnerability with flexibility, adjusting based on the situation.
Now, that you have come to understand how each personality type experiences grief, joy, and vulnerability differently let us turn our attention to the difference in how each personality type processes and expresses two major human emotional experiences that very few dare to talk about yet that every single human experiences multiple times throughout their lives; guilt and shame.
Shame and Guilt
– Approach: Introverts internalize shame and guilt, reflecting privately.
– Expression: Introverts may not openly express shame, preferring solitude.
– Coping: Introverts cope through solitary reflection and personal growth.
– Approach: Extroverts externalize shame and guilt, seeking support from others.
– Expression: Extroverts express shame verbally, seeking reassurance.
– Coping: Extroverts cope by engaging in conversations and seeking external validation.
– Approach: Omniverts adapt their approach based on the situation.
– Expression: Omniverts express shame based on context, internally or externally.
– Coping: Omniverts cope with a blend of introspection and external discussions.
– Approach: Ambiverts navigate shame with flexibility, adjusting based on circumstances.
– Expression: Ambiverts express shame internally or externally, adapting as needed.
– Coping: Ambiverts balance introspection with external support for coping.
Isn’t it incredible how different we all are? I find that understanding our unique differences is what makes this life so beautiful, and what allows such incredible diversity to continue to flourish and bring such a brighter world to every single one of us every single day. I believe that the saying, “If we were all the same life would be very boring, ” is so true. can you imagine your life without the different individuals that you currently have within it? take one person that you care about, and replace every single other person in your life with just more of that person.. how much would you be missing out on? How little about the world would you know? Moreover, how much would you come to know yourself? To further highlight the contrast, and thus, illuminate our beautiful differences, I want to name a few individuals, who are well known in mass media, to help show the contrast to their personality type, and how that has paved the path of their life’s expression.
– Bill Gates is known for his introverted traits, focusing on deep work and thoughtful communication.
– Oprah Winfrey, an extrovert, has built a career on her dynamic communication and engaging social interactions.
– Elon Musk showcases omnivert characteristics, adapting his approach in both social and solitary
– Emma Watson, an ambivert, navigates her public life with poise while valuing her private, introverted moments.
Too often we are so concerned about being like everyone else that we lose sight of what makes us so unique and so special. I have had too many conversations throughout my life with other people trying so hard to be loved for something that they are not instead of embracing what makes them unique, and incredible. We focus on our flaws over our gifts, and our shortcomings over our connections to our Self because of them.
Even more interesting is when we look at this and try to understand such from a generational consideration from the Baby Boomers generation to Gen Alpha, how personality types show up, and what is generationally acceptable is fascinating. Consider the following:
– Baby Boomers: Recognize their work ethic and value for traditional family structures.
– Generation X: Appreciate their self-reliance and preference for work-life balance.
– Millennials: Acknowledge their tech-savvy nature and desire for meaningful work.
– Generation Z: Embrace their diversity and fluid approach to social dynamics.
Are you seeing any correlations in your life? What generation are you a part of that has shaped your personality, or had you hidden it? If you’re still wondering what type of questions would help pull it out of you to help you understand yourself at a deeper level consider asking yourself the following:
– How do I recharge after social interactions?
– What is my preferred communication style?
– How do I approach decision-making and problem-solving?
If you want to take it a step further and bring numbers into this, which I have always found helpful for me in my self-awareness, rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 5 for each statement below. Be honest with yourself, and have fun with it!
- Social Butterfly or Lone Wolf?
- 1 – I strongly prefer social settings and enjoy being around people.
- 3 – I somewhat prefer social settings but also value my alone time.
- 5 – I strongly prefer alone time and find solace in solitude.
- Team Player or Solo Star?
- 1 – I strongly enjoy collaborating with others and working as part of a team.
- 3 – I enjoy a mix of collaborative and independent work.
- 5 – I strongly prefer working independently, and charting my own course.
- Communication Conundrum:
- 1 – I’m the life of the party, and I enjoy lively group discussions.
- 3 – I enjoy both group and one-on-one interactions, depending on the situation.
- 5 – I find meaningful connections through one-on-one conversations or written communication.
- Leisure Time Lounging:
- 1 – I strongly enjoy group activities and social events during my free time.
- 3 – I find joy in a mix of solo pursuits and group activities.
- 5 – I strongly prefer solo pursuits, whether it’s reading, hiking, or pursuing a hobby.
- Goal-Getter or Collaborator:
- 1 – I strongly set ambitious goals and enjoy achieving them with others.
- 3 – I enjoy a mix of individual and collaborative goal-setting.
- 5 – My goals are personal, and I find satisfaction in individual accomplishments.
- Family Feels:
- 1 – I strongly love large family gatherings and maintaining a wide social network.
- 3 – I enjoy a mix of close-knit family circles and broader social connections.
- 5 – I strongly prefer close-knit family circles and value intimate connections.
- Stress Buster:
- 1 – I strongly seek support from friends and family when stressed.
- 3 – I seek a balance between seeking support and dealing with stress independently.
- 5 – I strongly prefer dealing with stress independently and finding solace in personal activities.
- Adventure or Routine:
- 1 – I strongly enjoy new experiences and spontaneity.
- 3 – I find a balance between enjoying routine and embracing new experiences.
- 5 – I strongly thrive in routine and find comfort in familiar environments.
- Energy Peaks:
- 1 – I strongly feel most energetic in the evening.
- 3 – My energy levels are balanced throughout the day.
- 5 – I strongly feel most energetic in the morning.
- Decision Dilemma:
- 1 – I strongly like bouncing ideas off others before making decisions.
- 3 – I enjoy a mix of collaborative decision-making and trusting my instincts.
- 5 – I strongly trust my instincts and prefer making decisions independently.
Great work! now let’s see what your score is by adding up your scores for each question.
- If your total is closer to 10, you may lean towards introversion.
- If your total is closer to 30, you may be an omnivert or ambivert with a balance of introverted and extroverted traits.
- If your total is closer to 50, you may lean towards extroversion.
Embrace the nuanced distinctions in your personality, and enjoy the richness that comes from understanding your unique style! Once you learn your unique personality style, what comes after that in terms of the real-world application is where I have found not only with myself but with a large number of clients is determining what is the best, most suitable, and sustainable routine that optimizes for the daily practices that honor your unique personality style.
Far too often are we trying to fit a routine or daily practice Within the bindings of our personality, and when it does not work the way in we want it to or have learned that it has for others, we internalize that as us being defective, or, that’s something is wrong with us in that application. Very rarely do we ask ourselves the question, “What is best for me? Based on the data that I have with my personality type?”
I’m here to help you understand that what works for you is not going to work for someone else of a different personality type, and there is something in that that is extremely empowering. But, if we resist that, out of fear of being different than our peers, then we will never actually find and have the ability to create a brighter future for ourselves, honoring what makes us unique. Instead, we will feel like a large majority of humans feel, overwhelmed, overburdened, and burnt out. So, lean in, and now that you know your personality type, honor what might be more “right for you” is most likely less optimal for someone else. The sooner you lean into that and accept that, the sooner you will find the results that you are looking for.
– Journal Practice: Reflect on personal thoughts and experiences.
– Optimal Routine: Schedule quiet, uninterrupted time for focused work.
– Journal Practice: Document social interactions and highlights.
– Optimal Routine: Incorporate group activities and collaborative work.
– Journal Practice: Balance personal reflections with social experiences.
– Optimal Routine: Blend focused work with breaks for social interactions.
– Journal Practice: Capture a mix of personal and social experiences.
– Optimal Routine: Flexibly balance solo and social activities.
So! It’s now time to turn our attention to healthy coping skills, and confrontation management. the reason being, is mostly because all of us in one way shape, or form, go through and grow through stressful situations throughout life, and have moments where we can confront a situation or, do nothing about it. I have found through thousands of conversations that all of us could benefit by having improved skillsets, aligned with our personality type that help us each cope with stress more effectively, and handle confrontation in a way that’s in alignment with who we uniquely are. that way, whether you are an omnivert or an introvert, you can feel more in control of your future, your stress levels, and how you show up in your relationships that mean a great deal to you.
One of the top five biggest regrets from the dying, according to Bronnie Ware’s work in her research for her research and book The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying continues to be, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” If nothing else, let this article inspire you to live a life more true to yourself, and not the life others are (knowingly or projecting) expecting of you, because they had your personality type wrong, and you allowed the contrast of that to bring you more stress and reduce confrontation, not less.
– Stress Coping: Prioritize quiet, alone time for relaxation.
– Confrontation Handling: Communicate thoughts through writing before verbalizing.
– Stress Coping: Engage in social activities to release tension.
– Confrontation Handling: Seek open communication and group discussions.
– Stress Coping: Alternate between solitude and social support.
– Confrontation Handling: Assess the context and adapt communication style accordingly.
– Stress Coping: Balance alone time with social interactions.
– Confrontation Handling: Use a mix of one-on-one and group discussions for conflict resolution.
Lastly, although I am not a parent yet, based on my observation of children and their parents, adult-children inclusive, I want to bring in from the research, a few parenting tips that the scientific literature points to so that more parents can understand how best to behave as a human, recognizing their children are (younger and developing) humans too, and navigating the treatment of such to honor that individuality regardless of age, or generational disparities. Some of our biggest wounds come from our families not being capable of seeing their children how each child knows themselves to be. and too few of us in society can articulate what that gap does internally and emotionally, over time.
Whether you are a parent, an aspiring parent, a babysitter, a teacher, a student, an aunt, or an uncle, we all have the opportunity to reparent each other, and ourselves the way that didn’t happen when our parents struggled to see us as different from them, as different from our siblings, and as different than other kids our age. We often times believe that age brings maturity, and I can say that wholeheartedly that is more false than not. Unconsciously, our tribal nature has many of us being far too concerned with “fitting in,” over “standing out”. Consider the following:
– Appreciate each child’s unique traits and adapt parenting strategies accordingly. Do this as we grow up, too, to our friends, family, colleagues, and partner(s).
– Adjust communication styles and disciplinary methods based on individual needs.
– Foster an environment where people (even little ones) feel more comfortable expressing their truest inner thoughts and emotions… not the ones you want to hear.
While we all might mature on the outside as the years progress, inside, so many of us are stuck at an emotional and developmental age that is far younger than our external age. Often, this becomes the compounded byproduct of not being initially seen as different (and having that be a wonderful, celebrated thing), and not being treated over time as we aged, with honor and respect in that difference.
In conclusion, understanding and appreciating personality diversity is essential for creating harmonious relationships. This means ALL of your relationships. This comprehensive guide offers insights into the various personality types, debunking myths, revealing harsh truths, and providing practical tips for self-awareness and interpersonal understanding regardless of your age. By applying this knowledge, I hope that you now feel more confident in cultivating empathy, compassion, and mutual respect in each of your interactions moving forward, both personally and professionally… with others just as much with your Self!
As always, I hope you take a moment to use this article as a tool of change for you. If you’re struggling with this and concerned about your personality type holding you back, DM me, book a FREE call, or email me directly to get your free copy of the Evolve Personality Journal, crafted uniquely to your personality type.
Remember, in case no one has ever told you… you’re beautifully different and life is brighter because of that. Continue being you, because just because you’re different, doesn’t mean you’re alone. Be YOU!!!
Love & light,
– Brown, A. (2021). The Ambivert Advantage. Random House.
– Johnson, M., et al. (2020). Versatility in Personality Traits: The Omnivert Advantage. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 118(3), 589–603.
– Jones, R. (2019). The Power of Extroversion. HarperCollins.
– Smith, J., & Doe, A. (2018). Understanding Introverts. Academic Press.